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Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

nonviolent communicationClinical psychologist Marshall B. Rosenberg offers an enlightening look at how peaceful communication can create compassionate connections with family, friends, and other acquaintances. Click here to read more.

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The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce

coparenting_survival guideYou may be winning the battle in court, but losing the war at home, saddened at the wounds your children bear as a result of this conflict. But because you are willing to do anything to help your children thrive, you can learn to build a parenting partnership with your former mate in spite of the history between you. The Co-Parenting Survival Guide shows you how to avoid the hot spots and the common traps of hostility, inflexibility, and constant squabbling, and develop skills to sustain a co-parenting partnership based on love and concern for your children, so they can best benefit from two parents living separately but working together. Click here to read more.

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Parenting After Divorce: Resolving Conflicts and Meeting Your Children’s Needs (Rebuilding Books) (2e)

parenting_after-divorceBook by Philip Michael Stahl on Parenting after divorce. Second edition. Click here to read more.

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Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

consciousuncouplingWe enter our romantic relationships with great love, hope, and excitement--we've found the 'one', so we plan and forge our futures together. But sometimes, for many different reasons, relationships come undone; they don't work out. Commonly, we view this as a personal failure, rather than an opportunity. And instead of honoring what we once meant to each other, we hoard bitterness and anger, stewing in shame and resentment. Sometimes even lashing out in destructive and hurtful ways, despite the fact that we’re good people at heart. That's natural: we're almost biologically primed to respond this way. Click here to read more.

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Undefended Love

undefended-loveThis book precisely maps a unique journey that turns the problems and conflicts that inevitably arise in relationships into opportunities for deeper connection. Illuminating case studies, guided self-inquiries, and challenging exercises help you discover how to engage your partner in a deeper dialogue and find ways of expressing the most profound and untamed aspects of your nature. Click here to read more.

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Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You

getting-past-your-breakupIt's over--and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out. Click here to read more.

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The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

the-four-agreementsRooted in traditional Toltec wisdom beliefs, four agreements in life are essential steps on the path to personal freedom. As beliefs are transformed through maintaining these agreements, shamanic teacher and healer don Miguel Ruiz asserts lives will "become filled with grace, peace, and unconditional love." Click here to read more.

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When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

when-things-fall-apartThe beautiful practicality of her teaching has made Pema Chödrön one of the most beloved of contemporary American spiritual authors among Buddhists and non-Buddhists alike. A collection of talks she gave between 1987 and 1994, the book is a treasury of wisdom for going on living when we are overcome by pain and difficulties. Chödrön discusses...Click here to read more.

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The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth

road-less-traveledPerhaps no book in this generation has had a more profound impact on our intellectual and spiritual lives than The Road Less Traveled. With sales of more than seven million copies in the United States and Canada, and translations into more than twenty-three languages, it has made publishing history, with more than ten years on the New York Times bestseller list. Now, with a new Introduction by the author, written especially for this...Click here to read more.

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Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

loving-what-isOut of nowhere, like a breeze in a marketplace crowded with advice, comes Byron Katie and “The Work.” In the midst of a normal life, Katie became increasingly depressed, and over a ten-year period sank further into rage, despair, and thoughts of suicide. Then one morning, she woke up in a state of absolute joy, filled with the realization of how her own suffering had ended. The freedom of that realization has never left her, and now in Loving What Is you can discover the same freedom through The Work. Click here to read more.

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The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship: A Toltec Wisdom Book

mastery-of-loveIn a refreshingly honest investigation of the true nature of love, don Miguel Ruiz brings to light the commonly held fallacies and misplaced expectations about love that permeate most relationships. In the tradition of Carlos Castaneda, he uses inspirational stories to impart the wisdom of three fundamental Toltec masteries (Awareness, Transformation, and Love). The themes explored include the Toltec wisdom of the heart, the track of love, and the war of control. Click here to read more.

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The Good Divorce: How to consciously create the best possible outcome for you and your family

the-good-divorceSo, what kind of a divorce do you actually want to have? Just by asking this question YOU create the possibility that you have a choice in the matter! Do you want a divorce that is painful, expensive, and damaging to your children - a divorce like so many others in our society today where a worst-case outcome seems to have become the expected and accepted norm? Or do you want a divorce that is relatively painless and drama free, not more expensive than it needs to be, and one that leaves your children whole and your ability to co-parent amicably intact? Click here to read more.

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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

codependent-no-moreIs someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent-and you may find yourself in this book-Codependent No More. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. Click here to read more.

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Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender

letting-goLetting Go describes a simple and effective means by which to let go of the obstacles to Enlightenment and become free of negativity. During the many decades of the author’s clinical psychiatric practice, the primary aim was to seek the most effective ways to relieve human suffering in all of its many forms. The inner mechanism of surrender was found to be of great practical benefit and is described in this book. Dr. Hawkins’s previous books focused on advanced states of awareness and Enlightenment. Over the years, thousands of students had asked for a practical technique by which to remove the inner blocks to happiness, love, joy, success, health, and, ultimately, Enlightenment. Click here to read more.

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Hope for Today

hope-for-todayThis book provided daily thoughts and meditations on living in a family with alcoholism. Click here to read more.

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Building a Parenting Agreement That Works: Child Custody Agreements Step by Step

parenting-agreementAvoid custody battles -- save time, money and grief. Working out a fair and realistic child-custody agreement is one of the most difficult tasks for parents going through a divorce or separation. Building a Parenting Agreement That Works is the only book to show separating or divorcing parents how to overcome obstacles and create win-win custody agreements. Click here to read more.

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The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

gifts-of-imperfectionIn The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown, a leading expert on shame, authenticity, and belonging, shares ten guideposts on the power of Wholehearted living—a way of engaging with the world from a place of worthiness. Each day we face a barrage of images and messages from society and the media telling us who, what, and how we should be. We are led to believe that if we could only look perfect and lead perfect lives, we'd no longer feel inadequate. So most of us perform, please, and perfect, all the while thinking, "What if I can't keep all of these balls in the air? Why isn't everyone else working harder and living up to my expectations? What will people think if I fail or give up? When can I stop proving myself?" Click here to read more.

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Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation

mindsightThis groundbreaking book, from one of the global innovators in the integration of brain science with psychotherapy, offers an extraordinary guide to the practice of “mindsight,” the potent skill that is the basis for both emotional and social intelligence. From anxiety to depression and feelings of shame and inadequacy, from mood swings to addictions, OCD, and traumatic memories, most of us have a mental “trap” that causes recurring conflict in our lives and relationships. Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and co-director of the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center, shows us how to use mindsight to escape these traps. Click here to read more.

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Parenting from the Inside Out

parenting-inside-outIn Parenting from the Inside Out, child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences shape the way we parent. Drawing on stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children. Click here to read more.

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The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for Codependents

language-letting-goMelody Beattie integrates her own life experiences and fundamental recovery reflections in this unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency. Problems are made to be solved, Melody reminds us, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. In this daily inspirational book, Melody provides us with a thought to guide us through the day and she encourages us to remember that each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal. Click here to read more.

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The Power of Intention

power-of-intentionIntention is generally viewed as a pit-bull kind of determination propelling one to succeed at all costs by never giving up on an inner picture. In this view, an attitude that combines hard work with an indefatigable drive toward excellence is the way to succeed. However, intention is viewed very differently in this book. Dr. Wayne W. Dyer has researched intention as a force in the universe that allows the act of creation to take place. This book explores intention not as something you do but as an energy you're a part of. We're all intended here through the invisible power of intention. This is the first book to look at intention as a field of energy that you can access to begin co-creating your life with the power of intention. Part I deals with the principles of intention, offering true stories and examples on ways to make the connection. Click here to read more.

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Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

daring-greatlyResearcher and thought leader Dr. Brené Brown offers a powerful new vision that encourages us to dare greatly: to embrace vulnerability and imperfection, to live wholeheartedly, and to courageously engage in our lives. “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; . . .click here to read more.

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How to Do Your Own Divorce in California in 2014: An Essential Guide for Every Kind of Divorce

california-divorceWith How to Do Your Own Divorce in California in 2014, Californians can obtain an uncontested divorce without hiring an attorney. Even if the couple wants to use an attorney, this book is still an essential guide to make things go smoother including new and revised court forms for readers. The first part of the book explains in detail how to divide property and settle custody, visitation, and child support issues. The second part is a step-by-step guide through the court process, including how to complete important forms, when to file them, and how to get through a court appearance or even avoid it altogether. Click here to read more.

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A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose

new-earthWith his bestselling spiritual guide The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle inspired millions of readers to discover the freedom and joy of a life lived "in the now." In A New Earth, Tolle expands on these powerful ideas to show how transcending our ego-based state of consciousness is not only essential to personal happiness, but also the key to ending conflict and suffering throughout the world. Tolle describes how our attachment to the ego creates the dysfunction that leads to anger, jealousy, and unhappiness, and shows readers how to awaken to a new state of consciousness and follow the path to a truly fulfilling existence. Click here to read more.

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The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence

gift-of-fearTrue fear is a gift. Unwarranted fear is a curse. Learn how to tell the difference. A date won't take "no" for an answer. The new nanny gives a mother an uneasy feeling. A stranger in a deserted parking lot offers unsolicited help. The threat of violence surrounds us every day. But we can protect ourselves, by learning to trust—and act on—our gut instincts. http://www.amazon.com/dp/0440508835/ref=wl_it_dp_v_nS_ttl?_encoding=UTF8&colid=3KXY5OGDBFG0S&coliid=I1LRSZI39P1XYH.

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Healing the Shame that Binds You (Recovery Classics)

healing-the-shameThis classic book, written 17 years ago but still selling more than 13,000 copies every year, has been completely updated and expanded by the author. "I used to drink," writes John Bradshaw,"to solve the problems caused by drinking. The more I drank to relieve my shame-based loneliness and hurt, the more I felt ashamed." Click here to read more.

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Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change

living-beautifullyIs it possible to live well when the very ground we stand on is shaky? Yes, says everyone's favorite Buddhist nun, it's even possible to live beautifully, compassionately, and happily on shaky ground—and the secret is: the ground is always shaky. Pema shows how using a traditional Buddhist practice called the Three Vows or Three Commitments, offering us a way to relax into profound sanity in the midst of whatever non-sanity is happening around us. Just making these simple aspirations can change the way we look at the world and can provide us with a lifetime of material for spiritual practice. Click here to read more.

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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk

talk-to-kidsAdele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, internationaly acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children, give advice on how to talk productively with children in the interest of harmony and cooperation. Click here to read more.

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Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind – and Keep – Love

attachedWe rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes." In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Click here to read more.

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POWER VS. FORCE

powervsforceFor those who are not familiar with the basis of Kinesiology, the basic theory is that all living things have an energy field. This energy field is connected to all other energy fields in some way or another. In short, we are all connected to each other in some way. Nothing we say or do or that has been said, done or felt occurs in a vacuum and so has an effect on energy. Because of this, everything that is or was is written into an energy record of the collective unconscious. The problem is how to access this information. This is where David Hawkins and his research comes in. Through thousands of scientific experiments David Hawkins and others have found that muscle testing can be applied to determine when a field is positive or negative and things that change those fields. What makes Dr. Hawkins' research different is that while most kineseologists have worked with the individual and concerned themselves with how an individual's fields change based on their views, he has worked with determining the truth of information that is not known to the individual. Click here to read more.

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The Mindful Way Workbook: An 8-Week Program to Free Yourself from Depression and Emotional Distress

mindful-way-workbookImagine an 8-week program that can help you overcome depression, anxiety, and stress--by simply learning new ways to respond to your own thoughts and feelings. That program is mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT), and it has been tested and proven effective in clinical trials throughout the world. Now you can get the benefits of MBCT any time, any place, by working through this carefully constructed book. The expert authors introduce specific mindfulness practices to try each week, plus reflection questions, tools for keeping track of progress, and helpful comments from others going through the program. Like a trusted map, this book guides you step by step along the path of change. Click here to read more.

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The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself

untethered-soulWhether this is your first exploration of inner space, or you’ve devoted your life to the inward journey, this book will transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you. You’ll discover what you can do to put an end to the habitual thoughts and emotions that limit your consciousness. By tapping into traditions of meditation and mindfulness, author and spiritual teacher Michael A. Singer shows how the development of consciousness can enable us all to dwell in the present moment and let go of painful thoughts and memories that keep us from achieving happiness and self-realization. Click here to read more.

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If the Buddha Dated: A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path

if-the-buddha-datedn this practical, playful, yet spiritual guide, Charlotte Kasl, author of the highly successful Finding Joy: 101 Ways to Free Your Spirit and Dance with Life, shows you what it would be like to have the ancient wisdom of the Buddha to guide you through the dating process. Kasl brings a compassionate understanding to the anxiety and uneasiness of new love, and helps readers discover their potential for vibrant human connection based on awareness, kindness, and honesty. She approaches the dating process as a means for awakening, reminding us that when we live by spiritual rules, we bring curiosity and a light heart to the romantic journey. Click here to read more.

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How to Survive the Loss of a Love

how-to-surviveA great read for those suffering the loss of a love. Readers have rated this paperback edition with four and 1/2 stars. Click here to read more.

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I Hate You–Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

i-hate-youAfter more than two decades as the essential guide to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), this new edition now reflects the most up- to-date research that has opened doors to the neurobiological, genetic, and developmental roots of the disorder as well as connections between BPD and substance abuse, sexual abuse, Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome, ADHD, and eating disorders. Click here to read more.

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Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder

walking-on-eggshellsDiscusses the signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder and explains how the families and friends of patients can cope with BPD behavior while taking care of themselves. Click here to read more.

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Trapped in the Mirror

trapped-in-the-mirrorIn this compelling book, Elan Golomb identifies the crux of the emotional and psychological problems of millions of adults. Simply put, the children of narcissist -- offspring of parents whose interest always towered above the most basic needs of their sons and daughters -- share a common belief: They believe they do not have the right to exist. The difficulties experienced by adult children of narcissists can manifest themselves in many ways: for examples, physical self-loathing that takes form of overeating, anorexia, or bulimia; a self-destructive streak that causes poor job performance and rocky personal relationships; or a struggle with the self that is perpetuated in the adult's interaction with his or her own children. Click here to read more.

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Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

bounderiesHaving clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives:. Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances. Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions. Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions...Click here to read more.

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Courage to Change: One Day at a Time in Al-Anon II

courage-to-changeThe daily meditations, reminders, and prayers from Courage to Change help families encourage their recovering alcoholic loved ones and point to Al-Anon's impact as a vital part of recovery. Click here to read more.

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Why Marriages Succeed or Fail…And How You Can Make Yours Last

marriages-succeed-failPsychologist John Gottman has spent twenty years studying what makes a marriage last. Now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen, and maintain your own long-term relationship.This breakthrough book guides you through a series of self-tests designed to help you determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage. Click here to read more.

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The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships

relationship-cureFrom the country’s foremost relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Dr. John M. Gottman comes a powerful, simple five-step program, based on twenty years of innovative research, for greatly improving all of the relationships in your life—with spouses and lovers, children, siblings, and even your colleagues at work. In The Relationship Cure, Dr. Gottman...Click here to read more.

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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert

7-principlesJohn Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. Click here to read more.

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How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

how-to-be-an-adult"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this book, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships—one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life...Click here to read more.

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The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage

alcoholic-marriageEvery aspect of a relationship takes on the nature of a dilemma when one or both partners are alcoholic. Here, the relatives and friends of alcoholics openly and honestly talk about their marriages and dealing with problems primarily involving sex, communication, maturity, feelings, personalities, security, and independence. Together, these Al-Anon members encourage the reader to "let the understanding, love, and peace of the [Al-Anon] program grow in you one day at a time." Click here to read more.

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From Survival to Recovery: Growing Up in an Alcoholic Home

from-survival-to-recoveryA very helpful book providing experience in many real-life situations. Another highly recommended book for any library. Click here to read more.

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